ESTELLE (STELLA) COOPER
(1928 - 2010)

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General Details

Name:	Mrs ESTELLE (STELLA) COOPER
Nick Name:	BUBBY
Maiden Name:	KOPITA
Gender:	Female
Age:	82 years old
Lived:	Wednesday, 11 January 1928 - Tuesday, 6 July 2010

My Story

from Danny: ESTELLE ALWAYS LOVED TO VISIT AND TALK TO HER CHILDREN, GRANDCHILDREN AND GREAT GRANDCHILDREN AND GREAT GREAT GRANDCHILDREN. SHE ALWAYS LOOKED AT THEIR PHOTOS IN HER HOUSE AND BY HER BEDSIDE. THOSE WERE HER LASTING MEMORIES BEFORE SHE PASSED.

From Rivka: to Bubby. :

Who is Bubby to me? Since I heard of her passing, my mind has been
flooded with memories of times we spent together. They are all happy
memories. Thoughts of Bubby make me smile, because she brought joy. I
picture her beautiful, smiling face, her eyes shining whenever she
sees me.
If I were to pick an attribute that I most respected in Bubby, it was
how she was as a mother. Her love for her children was beyond measure.
Bubby didn't have it easy as a single mother, and her life was no bed
of roses. But for all my 30 years, I saw that Bubby's greatest concern
was her children. She worried about Ronnie and That his habits were
going to get him in trouble. She worried for Danny and his marriage
and children. She saw my mother, so devoted to her children, her
husband, and her shlichus, working round the clock, day after day, and
year after year, to ensure everyones happiness and well being. Bubby
was raised lovingly, but wasn't priveleged to be raised religiously,
and couldn't understand how a person would choose a lifestyle that
involved so much responsibility. I sense that over the years, Bubby
realized that there was no more beautiful way of life than the one my
mother chose.
Bubby came to visit several times a year, and we would travel to see
her. Those visits made us laugh so much. Bubby was capital F Funny!
She remembered our birthdays, and always sent presents. She loved
hearing from us, and proudly covered every wall and surface in her
house with pictures of her children and grandchildren. Clearly,
nothing was more precious to Bubby than her family.
She taught the next generation well. People tell me I am a good
mother. We all know where one learns how to parent. As a kid, i
imagined that I would be different and better then my parents, and as
an adult, I realize that i'll be lucky indeed if I can just manage to
emulate them. My mother and father are incredibly selfless, patient,
generous and kind.
Traveling to my beloved Bubby's funeral, I find myself reflecting on
my role as a mother, and it's impact on future generations. I marvel
at the legacy Bubby has left, and wonder how my descendants will think
of me. In Yiddishkeit we don't dwell on the past. Rather, we take
lessons from it, and learn from those who traveled these paths before
us. It's important to remember them with gratitude, for showing us the
way.
Recently I visited with a dear aunt, who took great pleasure in
pampering me with R&R. She told me I work too hard, and need to take
care of myself. I respectfully disagreed. There is nothing more
important than what I'm doing. What better way to spend my time,
energy and money, than on my children? There is no greater investment.
I firmly believe that my lifes purpose is to care for the children G-d
blesses and entrusts me with. Dear aunt, I would rather be at home
holding my babies, soothing boo boos, refereeing fights, scrubbing
cereal from the walls, than be out getting a manicure. What I want
most in the world, is for my children to be healthy and happy in mind,
body and spirit.
Following the example of my mother and grandmother, I put everything I
have into my parenting. All my energy, my skills, my enthusiasm, my
patience, go to my family.
You see, contrary to what many people think, our purpose in this world
isnt to take care of ourselves and search for happiness. Life isn't
about taking it easy. G-d gave us bodies as tools to assist us in
fulfilling our life's purpose. They aren't even ours, really, they are
on loan to us. We are expected to use them and to work hard. No one
has it easy. Doctors work hard, teachers work hard, and parents should
expect to work hard, too. While being a parent, we are on the job, on
call, at work. This is not the time to take it easy.
Children think they have it hard. They aren't in control, they have to
follow rules, and they can't wait to grow up and be in charge, make
money and spend it how they like. They don't appreciate that they are
taken care of, and they impatiently await the next stage of life.
As adults, we complain that the responsibilities are too big a burden,
so many people depend on us, and there are never ending, ever
increasing expenses. We find ourselves looking forward to the next
stage of our lives, when the kids are grown and we can sleep through
the night, maybe travel, take life easy.
I don't speak from experience here, but I can see that the mature
adulthood stage is no picnic, either. Caring for aging parents while
marrying off children, financial worries about retirement, and a list
of commitments that doesn't get shorter.
In the last stage of life, it's all about trying to stay alive. If we
are fortunate, we dont become dependent on others for our care. We
worry about burdening our children, and we look back and wonder if we
did the best we could for those we love.
My point is, waiting for a better, easier time, is a waste of time.
Right now, whatever stage you're in, make the most of it. This is the
best it's going to get.
And so, I choose to be the best parent I can, and give it my all. I
want to look back and know I did the most I could for my family, that
i completed my life's mission to the best of my ability.
I want to make my ancestors proud of what they have produced and
accomplished, and I want my decendants to be proud of where they came
from.
Thank you Bubby, and thank you Ma, for your endless love, your
physical and emotional support, your generosity, your wise and patient
guidance. Thank you for being there for your family, always. And thank
you most, for teaching me how to care for my own family. My children
will thank you too, one day, when they will realize what you have
given to them.

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From: Stellabystarlight
Song Name: GOD BLESS THE LAN...
Artist: MURRAY KOPITA

Biography

Fathers Name:	MOSES (MURRY)
Mothers Name:	MIRIAM (MARY)
Spouse's Name:	STANLEY YUDESS #1, VICTOR COOPER #3
Children's Names:	RONALD, SHOSHANA, DANIEL
Country of Birth:	USA
Country of Residence:	USA
City of Residence:	LAUDERHILL
Occupation:	Other
Marital Status:	Widowed
Religion:	Jewish

Interests

Favourite Sport:	Tennis
Favourite Music Genre:	Other
Favourite Artist:	MURRY KOPITA
Other Interests:
PLAYED PIANO MUSIC BY EAR LIKED TO DANCE.

Passing

Place of Passing:	UNIVERSITY HOSPITAL, TAMARAC, FL
Date of Passing:	6 July 2010
Cause of Passing:	CARDIO PULMONARY ARREST
Type of Funeral:	JEWISH, GRAVESIDE WITH TENT
Place of Burial:	MENORAH GARDENS, SOUTHWEST RANCHES, FL
Funeral Location:	MENORAH GARDENS
Funeral Date:	7 July 2010

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